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I did not get xmas presents from bf because I told him not to but I wish he did?

My bf is broke. So I told him not to give me anything. But now I am kinda upset that during kris kringle I hardly got anything from anyone. I thought I'd be fine. Sigh. Am I weird? Should I be feeling this way? Oh, I bought a holiday ticket for my bf to fly in 2 wks so that's my xmas present to him.

Public Comments

1. thats life
2. oo :S.. Well i told my bf not too but he still did.. :D Donno maybe he just doesnt understand a girls mind haha!
3. While there are less expensive gifts, that he could have got you for a few dollars, I don't think you would have been happy with that, and he probably would have been embarassed to give you them (especially since you got hime a plane ticket. those cost a lot typically. so i'm sure it would have made him feel bad, like he wasn't a man, ya know?). Besides that..you told him not to. Did you sincerely tell him not to get you anything because you didn't want him to spend money he doesn't have? Or was it the whole "i'm going to tell you not to get me something, but I actually do want something, so you best get me a gift or else I'm going to be mad at you" bullcrap? No one..not men, not women either, are mind readers. Humans just aren't capable of that, and you can't expect him, nor anyone else to read your mind. It's not unusual to feel upset that you didn't get a gift, because humans are just that way about material stuff. BUT..You can't tell someone not to do something, and then expect them to do it. That is called a mind game, my dear. Anyhow, this time of the year isn't about gifts and all the materialistic crap. It sounds cliche, but it actually is about giving..not recieving, and being around the people you love, even if they are broke..(ie..your boyfriend). Just forget about it and be happy. And hey if you're that bothered..have a bit of a shop for yourself. :P
4. lol, us blokes cant get it right can we ? you say you wanted nothing, then you complain you got nothing. you got what you wanted - nothing, so be happy
5. He is not broke, he is cheap. It was a sweet thing of you to tell him not to buy you anything for xmas but its too cheap of him to not make an effort at all to even buy you a cheap bag of chips with a ribbon on it. Make u a card? You bought him plane tickets! and he couldnt even get you a chocolate bar....you should be upset, very. IF you tell him, hell tell you you told him not to buy you anything, but thats just lame hell say that, hes cheap.
6. Don't LIE!!!!! You lied to your boyfriend by saying you didn't want anything. I hate that. When a women says something and means something else. You need to stop beating around the bush and be up front. Otherwise you'll just get mad at him for not reading your mind. Guys are simple. You tell us something we do it. If you tell us something and you don't mean it. Then we will do what you told us to do and you will get mad at us. So ladies just tell us what you want and stop playing these little mind games.
7. Don't do that again.Less said best said it should have been his decision. You were not true to yourself that's why you feel the way you do. Somehow he would have given you something and may have felt better about it even if he is broke. Hope the holiday ticket is for both of you.Will your boyfriend feel weird that he got you nothing and you lavished a expensive gift on him.Years ago someone wanted to give me a ring I wanted and I did the same thing knowing we we poor at the time, Some time later the subject came up and I found out he had wanted to give it to me so bad and when I said no he was hurt because he saved up to get it for me. And he was not a saver.Accepting a gift is in my case accepting the giver even though I was being practical I failed to see the giver. Men just think different than women at times.Ever read "The Gift of the Magi"?
8. well you should have thought about that before you told him hope this helped ~Santa's Lil girl
9. How long have you been with your boyfriend, and why not be honest and make him aware of what you wanted and that was to exchange gifts. Make him know what you want, men are not going to think beyond the moment. you told him you didn't want anything for Christmas. That is what he is focusing on. You cant assume he knows. Maybe he thought you and him weren't exchanging gifts being you told him don't get you anything. next time be more specific about what you want don't be afraid to voice what you are feeling, it really not about money because if he would have bought you a little something you probably would have been-happy because its the thought that counts. It just show he was thinking of you.